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“I can’t tell you the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody” – Heath Ledger
I was never blinded by trying to please everybody, at least that’s what I thought. It wasn’t until I clearly outlined what was important to me, that I realised that I do get pulled side to side trying to please all different kinds of people. What will my friends think if I do this? What will my family think? What will my old classmates think of me?
A truly terrible way to live.
No matter what you do in life people will always have something to say, from your friends to your parents to even strangers. You must be your own guide. Outline your values to yourself. Identify the kind of people that do the things you want to do. The people that share your morals, direction, and intentions. Every other opinion should be like a blowing breeze.
Imagine living your whole life not clarifying who you are and what you set out to do, or the kind of people you should listen to. You’ll hide your face when a family member or friend asks you what you want to do, if you think the answer may disappoint them. Who cares if they don’t like it, it’s not for them anyway? They may not be the type of person that understands, and that isn’t an insult to anyone. That’s clarity, that’s self-awareness.
I know I can’t please everyone so I’m not disappointed when I don’t.
Decide what is important to you. Define who you want to be, and the people you want to emulate. Even among your friends and family or people that are close to you, be aware that not all of them may understand the things you set out to do. Don’t get pulled in different directions trying to please everybody, all that does is impede you from being your truest self. Seek to impress yourself first, be yourself and the right people will gravitate your way like bees and honey.
“Don’t be afraid of losing people, be afraid of losing yourself trying to please everyone around you”
Inspired by life