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All of a sudden, I find myself bombing towards my mid-twenties. Friends are having kids, getting engaged, and choosing their lifelong career paths. This can feel like a pressurising moment, choose what you want to do now or feel ostracised and judged by society if the conventional path is not taken.
A pivotal point in life.
Naturally, I’ve always acted on my intuition, “the fear of regret is bigger than the fear of failure” is a great quote that comes to mind. I like to try things, and leave no stone unturned.
As I grow, I can feel the hope and optimism being sucked out of the people around me, like the time for dreaming and aspiring is coming to an end. We’re adults now, time to get realistic and live in the real world …
If the real world is one where pessimism and hopelessness prevail, I don’t want to live there. I’d rather remain curious, optimistic, and excited about trying new things. I’m not saying we should neglect our responsibilities, being responsible is empowering and gives you more control over your life, not less.
I am saying we should shield ourselves from the pressures of society to fall into an eternal bracket. If you feel like you’re heading down a factory line or running on a hamster wheel, neglecting experiences and adventures that are knocking on your mind’s door. Be careful. This is a recipe for a life full of regret and resentment. “I’m going to hate the people who have found their treasure because I never found mine”.
No one knows what’s better for you than you. I’ve become very particular regarding who I seek advice from. Is this person someone you would like to emulate? Is this person someone who paints everything with pessimism because they never touched their dreams? Do you even respect this person’s morals?
“Why do you seek praise from those you cannot praise” – Seneca.
Ultimately, time doesn’t care about our regrets. We don’t get a second chance as far as we know. When it’s our time to go and we look back at the people who we were afraid to fail in front of, the people who we tried to impress, the people who told us not to try. They won’t be there. It will just be you and your memories and the regrets of the things you wished you had tried.
“You will never be able to escape your heart, so it’s better to listen to what it has to say”
This was inspired whilst reading one of my favourite books ‘The Alchemist’ by Paul Coelho